What has done it for you? What in your vast life experience has produced that one emotion? That unique feeling? That unforgettable happiness? How have you experienced Joy? Other than the fact that my first real girlfriend was named Joy, I estimate that this welcome friend has occurred in my life a handful of times. It usually comes with something as life changing as getting that job you wanted, or perhaps an unexpected stroke of good luck. A reward of some kind or that wonder feeling that comes with being validated, understood, valued. Joy often comes when you are open to it. Case in point. Many thousands of people have recently felt the exultation of joy because their team has won a championship, their horse a race, or their candidate a political contest. But what of those that eschew sports or politics or or other interests. I think they miss out on something very beneficial. Something with big...
Last weekend I met up with a former student of mine. He graduated high school in 2007, so it had been a good 20 years since we'd seen each other. He was visiting a sister in Portland and looked me up. We met for coffee. David was always one of my most memorable students. He was in a Jr. Honors English class with me and then took my Intro Psychology class too. Aside from being highly motivated, and intellectually curious, David was a good athlete and quite a good looking young man. His father is Jewish and his mother is Japanese, so he has that striking quality that bi-racial kids often do. It occurred to me once that I had his mother as a student in my first year of teaching back in 1973. We spoke of many things, especially world affairs. David does geo-political analysis for a tech company, reflective of his educational background which includes degrees from UC Berkeley and Georgetown. The conversation was heady,...